What is your why?

How many times have you set a goal or intention, only to drop it shortly after? You’re not alone!  I have personally done this many times throughout my life and I couldn’t understand why I lacked the motivation to continue on some pursuits but not others!

I eventually worked it out, and it comes down to my “why”…

Why do I want to achieve this goal?

This seems like a really simple question, but there’s a lot more to it than you think!

You see, when I decided to become a Life Coach, it wasn’t because I thought it might be interesting.  Instead, it was because I had this deep desire to help people.  And why did I want to help people?  Well…

I’d been through many years of my own personal “hell” a few years prior to  making the decision, and I felt good inside at the thought of helping others so they wouldn’t have to live this way like I did.  When I refer to “others”, I also refer to my daughters – my biggest “why” – I didn’t want them to have to go through what I went through!

Fast forward several years after that and I finally received my certification.  Then later I decided to move into energy work, which happens to be something I’ve become quite good at (yay!)!  And again, I am helping people, including my daughters, my “bonus sons”, and my wonderful man, but in a completely different way. 

I gain so much pleasure from helping people through my coaching and healing, that I cannot really express this in words.  It is so fulfilling and I feel all warm and fuzzy inside while I’m working with someone or even just thinking about it!

So my “why” includes, but isn’t limited, to this:

• I love the idea of being able to help my family
• I love helping people to improve their lives
• I feel amazing when a client tells me about the improvements in their lives
• I believe that this is my true passion and it doesn’t feel like work (as the saying goes (it’s something like this), “Once you find your passion, you will never work a day in your life”)
• Everybody benefits from my work – including me!

So… you’ve decided you want to do something or achieve something.

Why?  Write it down to get clear on your reasons behind it.  Do those reasons feel “light” or do they feel “heavy”?  If they feel light, great!  If they feel heavy, you may want to re-think your reasons for wanting to do these things.  If you’re doing it because your family thinks you should, or if it’s to get back at someone or to prove to someone else that they are wrong about you, you may find you lose motivation and momentum pretty quickly.

The message here is to set a goal with a positive intention or “why” behind it.  That way, you’re more inclined to stick with it and see it through.