Negative self talk and how it affects your health

I’ve had a bit of a theme lately when working with clients, listening to podcasts, and doing some work on my husband, and it’s all about self talk.

I have known for some time that self talk can affect your health, but I wasn’t exactly aware of how much!

Major surgery

A few weeks ago my Laurie had to have major surgery where a large portion of his large intestine had to be removed. Sounds scary, right? Well yes, it was – especially for me as I waited for several hours for the call to say the surgery was done and he was ok! I knew he was going to be fine (my guides told me so), but the wait for that phone call was a struggle!!

Laurie’s first day post-surgery was pretty horrible as the nurses and doctors attempted to find him a pain killer that both worked, and didn’t make him sick! Thankfully that was under control before I left the hospital to come home!

Energy work

While he was in the hospital I did some healing work on him (he loves that I do this!), and I was taken to a distortion in his energy field in the area near his sacral chackra. I could see a purple-coloured “blob” sitting there, but I had no clue what it was all about!

So I dug out my trusty Book of Chakras (this is a wonderful book if you’re wanting to build an understanding of the chakras), and I remember I was skimming over the words, but not actually reading them. I have no idea why I was doing this, but a very clear message came into my mind:

“Watch your self talk”.

I knew this message was meant for my beautiful husband, and when I arrived at the hospital later that morning, I talked him through what I had found.

Making the shift

He admitted that he’d been pretty rough on himself lately, but he trusts the messages I receive, and he committed to shifting that asap!

Since he stopped with the negative self talk, his healing has been beyond amazing! The doctors are thrilled with his progress and in a few weeks he will be able to build up his activities to where they were before his surgery! Yay!

Sometimes he will catch himself thinking negative thoughts about himself, and he will say in his mind, “These words are not serving me”. He will then shift those thoughts to more positive thoughts, and say something kind to himself instead. It’s working a treat!

Negative self talk and how it affects your health

In my husband’s case, his negative self talk brought about a pretty serious intestinal problem. Others may experience something worse than this, and others may experience less serious issues.

I’m sure I’ve brought this up before, but there was a scientist that experimented with positive and negative words and how they affected water.

He would have certain words directed at specific samples of water, and the crystals formed when each was frozen, differed in the most incredible way!

The water samples who received positive words/thoughts reacted with beautifully-shaped crystals, whereas the water samples who received negative words/thoughts reacted with “messy”-looking crystals in comparison.

Given our bodies are made mostly of water, can you imagine what our words are doing to it?

Just think about that!

What to do if you catch yourself speaking negatively to yourself

If you’ve always been quite hard on yourself, it’s very likely something you’re doing this unconsciously, so the following steps will help you to shift this action into something that works for your greatest good:

1. The first step is awareness. Now that you understand how negative self talk can affect your health, you will be more likely to catch yourself as you’re saying something nasty to yourself!
2. Once you catch yourself, just like my husband does, say “These words are not serving me”, then replace those words with something positive. You could say something like “I am doing my best and I am learning more every day”, or something along those lines.
3. Think about the words you’ve spoken to yourself and ask if you would speak them to somebody you really loved. If the answer is no, then it’s time to stop saying them!

Self love (and I’m not talking about self love in an arrogant sort of way) is about accepting yourself, warts and all – just like you would with somebody you truly loved. It’s about being kind with your words and thoughts, and it’s about putting yourself first. Not in a “selfish” type of way, but in a “self care” type of way.

What’s next

From now on, I ask you to be aware of your self talk and for the rest of your life (yep, the rest of your life!), I want you to be kind to yourself and to others.

If you’re currently struggling with a health issue, take note of any improvements you experience as you become kinder to yourself – you may be quite surprised!