This one is for the ladies, however I think the single men out there may also relate to this one…
Let’s talk about manifesting a specific person.
You know the situation.
You’ve got the hots for some guy, you’ve just read a Neville Goddard book, or joined a Facebook group about manifestation… and suddenly you’re convinced you’re going to manifest your specific person (SP).
I see this almost every day.
Some poor woman is absolutely head-over-heels for a man who has done at least one of the following:
- treated her badly
- blocked her
- started seeing someone else
- ghosted her
- cheated on her
- clearly said he doesn’t want a relationship
And yet…
She is still determined to manifest a relationship with him.
Only him.
No substitutions.
The universe must deliver this man immediately.
When Your Standards Fall Below Floor Level
Now look… I’m not judging.
I’ve been that girl before.
The one who thought:
“But if I just visualise harder, he’ll realise I’m amazing.”
And these women are often deep into Neville Goddard teachings, which include ideas like:
- living from the end
- embodying the version of you who already has the relationship
- everything is you pushed out
So they’re sitting there imagining the relationship.
Feeling the feelings.
Trying to “live in the end”.
Meanwhile, the man in question has:
- blocked them
- disappeared
- or is happily dating someone else
And yet the Facebook posts continue:
“He blocked me yesterday but I’m persisting in the assumption that he loves me.”
Every time I see one of these posts, I have to resist the urge to comment:
“Girrrll… you need to raise your standards.”
But of course they don’t want to hear that.
They want reassurance that they can still have him.
The Neville Goddard Example
Now to be fair, Neville himself did manifest a relationship that seemed unlikely at the time.
He simply knew he would be with this woman.
He imagined it.
He felt it.
Then he went about his life.
Notice what he didn’t do.
He did not:
- sit in Facebook groups analysing every text message
- panic when she didn’t reply
- post asking strangers what it meant when she viewed his story but didn’t like it
Ok, Facebook (and internet, and mobile phones, and…) wasn’t around back then, but let’s imagine him as the modern equivalent!
He just had a quiet knowing.
And eventually, life unfolded in a way that allowed them to be together.
Where These Women Go Wrong
The mistake isn’t the idea of manifestation.
The mistake is how they’re applying it.
Neville talks about embodying the version of you who already has the relationship you want.
So you become the woman who already has the relationship of her dreams.
Great.
But let me ask a very important question.
The Question Nobody Wants to Ask
If you were already the woman who had the relationship of her dreams…
Would she want anything to do with a man who:
- cheats
- ghosts
- blocks her
- ignores her
- treats her badly
Of course she wouldn’t.
That woman has standards.
She knows her value.
She certainly isn’t chasing a man who treats her like an optional extra.
And this is the piece these women are missing.
The Man You’re Chasing Might Not Be “The One”
Many women convince themselves that this guy is the one.
But here’s something life has taught me repeatedly.
When you’re constantly unhappy with (or about) a man…
When you feel anxious around him and when he’s not around…
When you’re constantly wondering where you stand…
He isn’t the one.
Because the right man doesn’t make you feel like you’re auditioning for the role of “girlfriend”.
The right man is thrilled you exist.
And trust me when I say this…
The man who is actually right for you is usually a whole lot better than the one you’re currently obsessed with.
The Real Way to Manifest Love
So if you truly want to manifest a wonderful relationship, here’s my advice.
Leave the man out of it.
Instead, focus on becoming the woman who already has the relationship she desires.
The woman who:
- knows her worth
- has healthy standards
- expects to be treated well
- feels secure in love
Because when you become that woman, the right relationship will naturally find its way to you.
And it might not be with the man you currently have in mind.
But chances are…
It will be far better.
Put Yourself on the Pedestal
So ladies, let’s retire the habit of putting mediocre men on pedestals.
Instead, try this radical idea.
Put yourself up there.
Become the woman who knows her value.
The woman who knows she deserves love that is:
- respectful
- consistent
- supportive
- joyful
And when the right man arrives, he won’t be wondering if he wants you.
He’ll be wondering how on earth he got so lucky.
Ready to Break the Patterns Running Your Love Life?
If you feel like you keep attracting the same kind of men over and over again, it’s usually because there’s a deeper subconscious pattern running the show.
That’s exactly what we work on inside The Aligned Life Rewire.
This six-week 1:1 program helps you uncover and upgrade the subconscious patterns shaping your relationships, so you can finally step out of old cycles and create the kind of love you actually want.
You can learn more about it here: