How to find true love without settling

Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s crucial for anyone looking to build a happy and fulfilling future: how to find true love without settling. Let’s explore why settling can lead to resentment and disconnection, and how you can attract the relationship you truly desire.

The Importance of Not Settling

Settling in a relationship often means compromising on your core values and desires. Over time, this can lead to feelings of resentment and emotional disconnection from your partner. It’s essential to understand that while some flexibility is necessary, compromising on fundamental aspects of what you want in a partner can be detrimental to your long-term happiness.

My Journey to Finding True Love

To give you a little background on my journey, I created a detailed list of what I wanted in a partner. I had an essentials list and a desirables list. My essentials included traits like intelligence, a good sense of humor, and financial stability. This wasn’t about being superficial; it was about ensuring a partnership where I didn’t feel financially burdened, as I had in past relationships.

My desirables list had traits like physical attributes, but they weren’t deal-breakers. When I met my husband Laurie, he checked all the essential boxes, and many of the desirable ones too. This clarity helped me avoid settling and ensured I found a partner who truly matched my needs.

Steps to Avoid Settling

1. Create Your List of Essentials and Desirables:

• Write down traits and qualities that are non-negotiable (essentials) and those that are nice to have (desirables).
• This helps you stay clear on what you’re looking for and avoid compromising on fundamental needs.

2. Understand True Love:

• True love should feel like coming home, not necessarily a spark of electricity. Often, what feels like a spark can be trauma-based, perpetuating old, unhealthy patterns.

3. Beware of Trauma Triggers:

• If you have unresolved trauma, it might affect your relationship choices. It’s crucial to heal from these wounds to attract a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

4. Embrace Vibrational Alignment:

• When you align with what you want, it must come into your life. If you’re not having much luck, it’s likely because you’re not vibrationally aligned with your desires. Clarity about what you want is the first step towards alignment.

Working with Your Vibrational Energy

To align with true love, you need to:

• Understand Your Soul Blueprint: Your unique makeup influences how you attract and create experiences in your life.
• Overcome Self-Sabotage: Identify and stop unconscious patterns that undermine your efforts to find love.
• Clear Energetic Blocks: Release past traumas and negative energies that prevent you from manifesting the love you desire.

What you can do, starting today

• Visualize Your Desired Future: Use the law of attraction and the law of assumption to mentally place yourself in a loving relationship.
• Set Clear Boundaries: Know your deal-breakers and stick to them to avoid compromising your values.
• Stay True to Your Values: Ensure your future partner shares your core values and beliefs for long-term compatibility.